Are you a sister and you have been in several relationship before you met the brother you want to marry? Are you a sister and you are not a Virgin again, don't lie about being a Virgin? Are you a sister and you have aborted several times, don't even try to hide it? Are you a sister and the series of abortion you  had before you met Christ have caused serious repercussions like womb rupture and infections? Are you a sister and you got pregnant but decided to have the child rather than abort it, don't hide your child from your fiancé? Are you a brother and you have asked several ladies to abort for you in the past, don't hide it from your fiancée. Even though the abortion was not performed on your body, it doesn't mean it cannot have some negative repercussions in your life?

Are you a brother and you have jilted so many ladies, slept with so many, had several one night stand before you got born again? Are you a brother and you have a child outside wedlock, don't hide? Are you a brother and you are impotent, don't hide the truth from your fiancée? Are you a brother and you have a sexually transmitted disease, don't hide it?

Any marriage that is based on lies and deceit may not last, lies and deceit is a wrong foundation for your marriage. Discuss every little detail of your past with your fiancée/fiancé, both the good the bad and the worst, If they will marry you they will. Discuss all your health conditions with your fiancé/fiancée, don't hide anything. Because the truth will eventually come out one day.

There is time for everything and the time to discuss all your past and secrets is during courtship. Many make the mistake of discussing all their past with a brother or sister that they are not even engaged too.As a sister,don't make the mistake of telling every brother who proposes to you all your past before you even accept the proposal, unless you want your life to become a gossip tale .
The period of Courtship is a time to discuss and know each other better, Once you are sure and convinced that this person is God's will for you, and you have agreed then tell each other your past. Likes attract likes, birds of a feather flocks together. No excellent woman will look your direction talk less of accepting your marriage proposal if you do not have these qualities:

You must have it. No virtuous, super smart lady will ever give attention to a mediocre, unintelligent, mentally backward and passive man. If there is nothing in your head except football and sex, you are not fit for marriage.

No one asked you to get labeled suits from France. Excellent grooming means excellent hair cut, fitting shirts, tops and trousers. Well sized shoes and neatly ironed outfits plus excellent colour combination and neatness. You are good to go.

Take your job/ business seriously and look what you sell. You can't look like a scum bag and expect her to like you. If you are a banker, dress and look like it. If you sell motor spare parts, look it. If you are a mechanic, look responsible in your over all and look sweet in your mufti. You don't have to be all black, dirty and smelly all day.

Lazy posture is a turn off. Stand straight. Don't drag your feet on the floor when walking. Walk smart. Exude confidence.

Excellent men open their mouths with wisdom, they speak with knowledge and understanding. Stop talking for the sake of talking. Stupid jokes and senseless, meaningless discussions are for lazy, backward, visionless people. If you have nothing sensible to say. Keep your mouth shut.

Every woman wants a man she can look up to. You must know more than her for her to respect your advise and opinion. Read wide, attend seminars, symposiums, workshop and lectures. Be an excellent researcher.

Excellent men exude confidence. Walk straight, look people in the eye when talking, learn to take firm handshake. Dress smart.

Excellent men have a good command of English language. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes but if the mistakes are making you lose job interviews, chase potential customers away and confuse the congregation when preaching Jesus and hell fire, you need serious attention. Go back to school!

Excellent men are 100% committed to their job, business, ministry or vision. If you have nothing doing and you want to get married, you need rehabilitation.

Excellent men know how to make money. Money is a number one romance booster in marriage. Give your wife cool cash to look good and run the home, she will enjoy love making without stress. Just as poverty deflates erection, lack of money will make any woman frigid. Go look for job, start a business and learn to bring money home.

Excellent men are generous and take care of the needy. They pay their tithe and offering without delay and are excellent seed sowers. If you are stingy and tight fisted, no sane woman will marry you.

Excellent men are God lovers and God chasers. When you chase God, excellent women will find you so adorable.

Let me digress a little. There is now a greater understanding of why God asks us not to have sex before we get married. This research proves that any man, that a woman has sex with leaves a part of his DNA { Deoxyribonucleic acid } in the woman.

The man who has had more sex with her, leaves more of his DNA in the woman. So when a woman ovulates, the eggs that she produces contain more of other DNAs. So we need to educate the girlchild to remain a virgin till marriage.

Anytime you have sex with another man you become one with that man (spiritually too) and carry the man's DNA. At some point  when you have too many of the male DNA in you; you change, because your cells are changing.

That also proves why when married couples live together for a long time they end up looking alike. The woman's DNA changes when she has sex with men. This is very serious.

The world should know this and stop silly sex promotions. It is bad than good. Unfortunately women are the victims. This was found out in many other research articles mostly released this year.  So it is new and we all have to know.

The fact is, women retain DNA from every man they have slept with. Cells transferred from a man to a woman during intercourse become integrated into the woman's body after sex, every single time they have sex.

This study found the presence of genetically distinct male cells in the brain of women. This also means these other male cells will be found in a foetus when the woman gets pregnant. (This is called microchimerism.)

Every male you absorb sperm from becomes a living part of your life. Sperm is a living substance.  Living cells. It enters your bloodstream and collects in your brain and spine.

Stop experimenting with sex. When the sperm enters a woman it swims until it hits a wall and then seeps into your flesh. If it's in your mouth, (abomination) it can get into your nasal areas, behind your eyes and even your inner ear. It then enters your bloodstream and collects in your brain and spine.  You can never get rid of it. It becomes a part of you forever. These are the true consequences of sexual intercourse.

Original research is from University of Seattle and Fred Hutchinson cancer research center. They accidentally found this when they were researching to find out why pregnant women carrying boys get men neurological diseases.

This is real and not a joke. Stop having sex if you are not married.  And stop having sex with other than your husband, for the married.The consequences of doing this is devastating. No wonder the world is the way it is! Say no to sex when not married. Say no to extra-marital affairs also.

Conclusively on the major discourse, there you go brother . Go work on yourself and prepare to attract the woman of your dreams, an excellent virtuous woman.